Zen and Anger
Anyone can become angry − that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way − this is not easy. Aristotle (384 BC-322 BC) Greek philosopher
Over a conversation this week with visiting guests, we had a discussion about what makes us angry. Most around the table said they reacted to people who shoved their way in line ahead of them, or who cut them off in traffic.
I could feel the sense of injustice our guests felt when they talked about these slights. It was as though they alone were the protectors of good behaviour.
For my part, I said I had a Zen about these situations. If someone cuts me off in traffic or in a grocery store line up, I first figure that they must not be aware of what they’re doing. Or perhaps they’re in a hurry, they need the space more than I do.